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25 Reasons You Should Be in Couples Therapy in 2020

Leah Betzen • Jan 02, 2020
If couples wind up in counseling, it’s most likely because they’re about to get married or their marriage is about to fall apart. The problem is, the best benefits of couples therapy come from the years between those two relationship book ends.

Longterm, committed relationships require maintenance. Marriage is not easy. You know these things. This year, what if you dedicated as much effort and determination into improving your marriage as you’re planning to dedicate to your career goals or health resolutions? 

Here are 25 reasons I believe EVERY couple should be in couples counseling. 

  1. You get to demonstrate to each other that your relationship is important. Regular sessions keep your marriage from falling down the priority list.
  2. Helps improve communication skills with your partner. 
  3. Prevents small relationship conflicts from snowballing into larger conflicts. 
  4. Can help shorten the amount of time it takes to repair your relationship after a conflict.
  5. Actively prevents the top four predictors of divorce: criticism, contempt, defensiveness, and stonewalling, from growing roots in your relationship.
  6. Allows for an environment to discuss things you or your partner may struggle to vocalize alone.
  7. Focuses on increasing positive interactions with one another.
  8. Pauses outside distractions like children, work, and household priorities so you can focus on each other. 
  9. Consistently checks to make sure you’re both moving toward common goals.
  10. Allows for a space to discuss and improve intimacy.
  11. Helps keep your relationship from falling into a “roommate” situation.
  12. Gives you an opportunity to work through outside stressors like kids, schedules, in-laws, etc. 
  13. Keeps you talking about life changes and upcoming events, ahead of time.
  14. Gets to the root of the problem when you find yourself having the same argument over and over again.
  15. Stops you from playing the blame game with your partner. 
  16. Helps lessen the chances that you or your partner will keep secrets from one another.
  17. Normalizes tough topics like sex and finances. 
  18. Builds mutual understanding and empathy for each other.
  19. Teaches each partner the “why” behind the habits, patterns, and reactions the other partner may have. 
  20. Encourages both partners to continue learning about one another for the duration of the relationship. (There will still be more to learn even decades after your wedding day!)
  21. Can prevent isolation inside the relationship.
  22. Keeps both partners focused on reaching shared goals so your mutual dreams don’t fall through the cracks as life gets hairy.
  23. Sets an example of maintaining a healthy marriage for your children. 
  24. Deters couples from falling into a rut and keeps you growing together.
  25. Helps build a stronger friendship between partners - the number one indicator of relationship success.
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